Getting Pregnant after a miscarriage
By administrator | September 22, 2007
Miscarriage is defined as the loss of a baby within the first 24 weeks of pregnancy.
One in five pregnancies end in a miscarriage.
Just because you might have suffered from a miscarriage in the past, it doesn’t mean that you will miscarry again, share your experiences about getting pregnant after suffering a miscarriage.
Topics: Getting Pregnant | 35 Comments »
January 29th, 2007 at 11:55 am
hi there. I’ve had one miscarriage a few weeks in to the pregnancy, and then within a few months. I read on the site that 1 in 5 pregnancies end in a miscarriage, so I wouldn’t worry too much, you can just be sensible about what you eat, your exercise and let nature take its course. I was lucky enough to become pregnant with twins. I now have two great girls and count myself lucky everyday.
January 22nd, 2008 at 11:55 am
hi! I had a miscarriage about 6 months ago and i am trying to pregnant again but I am really worried that it will happen again. Is there someone out there who can reassure me or tell me how I can avoid having another miscarriage?
January 15th, 2009 at 2:24 am
I too am pregnant after a miscarriage 3 months ago. I want to just put myself on bed rest for the next 15 weeks, but obviously thats not feasable (I have a 7yr old and a job) I am scared to death its going to happen again. My doctor said light excercise and sex is okay but Im scared. He said if I take care of my body thats all I can do and the rest is pretty much up to fate. Im trying to put the pregnancy in the back of my mind and be thankful for everyday, but it’s hard.
February 24th, 2009 at 1:54 am
I had a miscarriage on December 4, 2008. I was about 5 weeks along. I didn’t have a D & C. I am now 10 weeks pregnant. Apparently I got pregnant the day I stopped bleeding from the miscarriage. I have endometerosis and polycystic ovarian syndorom. I have read lots of things on miscarriages and it is very rare to have two miscarriages in a row. My doctor just told me to take it easy and eat whenever I wanted at least til the second trimester. I saw my precious baby last Wednesday for the first time. I hope that this gives someone the hope that I recieved from reading many stories just like this one.
March 10th, 2009 at 4:44 am
God is good that’s what I keep telling myself, I was 17 weeks (with my first) when I was having the miscarriage I didn’t feel any pain. After my two weeks check-up my Dr. told me to wait until I have two normal menstrual cycles before trying again. I was happy at the same time scared I don’t know what I would do if this happens to me again!
Good Luck to everyone
March 27th, 2009 at 10:15 am
After getting thru my first trimester without any problems other than being tird and thinking once you are in the 2nd trimester you are in a good place— I just went to the Dr. today and at 14w 4d they couldn’t find a heartbeat. The Dr. said from the ultrasound that this baby just passed away in the last day or 2. This was not a planned pregnancy so in the beginning we were in shock- but once you see your baby moving, sucking its thumb,it takes a piece of youre heart and you fall in love. We are so heartbroken- our 3 older children are as well. We don’t know if we should try again or not- I’m turning 40 in a few months and its scary to think this could happen again… I know the chances aren’t higher for a 2nd miscarriage, but just knowing all the testing we might need to do, alone, scares me. We know God is faithful and He has a plan for all things. He has a plan for us- pray we may be able to have another little one soon and that God allows it to fluorish here on earth with us. Good luck to all and prayers going up for each of you.
April 6th, 2009 at 7:13 am
We have been trying to conceive for 2 years with the help of IUI on our 4th attempt we got pg. Unfotrunately we had a miscarriage at 3 weeks. The IUI was our last one before moving onto IVF so we were so excited it happened…..finally! We made the mistake of sharing our news and it ending up lost. I figure we will ttc this month on our own (first cycle after m/c) and then try IUI again. Anyone doing the same???
May 16th, 2009 at 8:20 am
I had a miscarriage on easter morning i was 8 weeks along and i was told to wait 3 months to try again…well we all know how that goes…about the time i stopped bleeding which was like 6 days later we had protected sex for about 2 weeks then took the condom away and now i might be pregnant again..im sooo excited to find out if im actually going to be a mom again…keep your fingers crossed i am:D dont give up after you fail once dont let it keep you down get right back up and try again.
June 3rd, 2009 at 4:14 am
Hi, Suzanne!
You sound so much like us. We’d been trying for 2 years and 9 months (last 12 months on chlomid) and got pregnant May 4th via IUI (our 3rd IUI). I just miscarried on Sunday and have been in tears (I found out for sure this morning). I know that logically, it is a good sign that we even got pregnant, but it’s hard emotionally. We told all of the grandparents last Friday- I feel embarassed and sad now. Since we got pregnant with an IUI and chlomid, I am scared of being off chlomid and IUI. What does your doctor say about further IUIs?
June 5th, 2009 at 12:51 pm
Well, I got pregnant last September and then had a miscarriage in late October at around 8 weeks. I then got pregnant again the first of the year, 2009 and then had another misscarriage in March. I was so shocked and devistated. I had a D & C March 31st and then recently May 26th, found out I’m pregnant again after only one cycle. I’m so nervous. I don’t know what to think. I really want this baby. I go to the doctor in two weeks.
June 18th, 2009 at 12:18 pm
I just wanted to add my story. I was 5 weeks pregnant when I had my miscarriage….a month later, I was pregnant AGAIN….WITH TWINS!!! I was scared to death…..but I now have 3 year old twin girls who are perfect! I know it is scary and it’s hard not to worry, but put your faith in God….He will see you through.
July 10th, 2009 at 12:41 am
On June 26th I found out I was pregnant with our first child (about 5 weeks along), but then miscarried over the July 4th holiday weekend. It was uncomplicated and I did not need a d & c. I find myself sad, but also very anxious to start trying again. My dr. said to wait one cycle, but since the bleeding was somewhat like a very heavy period….I don’t see the reason to wait. The hardest part for me has been to not have any answers as to “why” this happened.
July 14th, 2009 at 7:34 am
Sometimes it’s just nice to know your not alone. My husband and I had our 10 wk ultrasound last Wed. we were so excited. The apt ended in tears when we found out we lost the baby around 5 or 6 weeks. I felt like I died right there on the table.
We had been trying for a 1 and a half years. I was on Chlomid for 4 of the months but it didn’t work. I have an issue ovulating on my own. We decided to take some time off and then it just happened we were pregnant. We couldn’t believe it…and then to have your dreams taken away was just devastating.
I miscarried this past weekend which was the worst thing I have ever experienced physically and emotionally. I just prey we are as fortunate and can get pregnant again…hopefully soon and have everything go ok. I wish you all the best of luck. It is amazing how many women go through this.
July 15th, 2009 at 6:21 am
Hi Shannon-
I agree that it is helpful to have this forum and to know that you’re not alone. I am so sorry to hear about your experience. The first week after the mc was very difficult, it was like an emotional roller coaster…but now I am feeling better both physically and mentally. I saw my dr. and although he had no answers for me as to why this happened it, he said once my cycles return to normal, I am clear to start trying again.
My dr. also gave me Clomid (I ovulate, but very irregularly) but I have decided NOT to take it yet as I am worried how it might effect my moods or a baby. Since we just started to try, I figured I would try to let nature take it’s course first. however, since i am 35, I don’t want to wait too long.
July 15th, 2009 at 7:38 am
Hi Mel,
This week has been hard. I am still having a lot of bad cramping but my dr. keeps reminding me the worst is over. I hope I will have a normal cycle in August and then we can start trying in September. I just pray it won’t take as long this time to get pregnant
and I hope none of us ever have a mc again! The other thing I am struggling with is everyone around me is pregnant. Family, friends, neighbors! Its like a conspiracy…but I have faith and I know there is a plan for us I just hope its soon.
As far as the chlomid everyone is different but I will tell you I struggled on the chlomid. It works for many women but it didn’t for me. I was so emotional and my hormones were so out of whack. I think I was more stressed out on the drug then off
But again I have had many friends that got pregnant the first month on chlomid. I wish you lots of luck! Hopefully in a few months we’ll both have good news!
July 22nd, 2009 at 11:38 am
I found out last week that I was pregnant. My husband and I had been trying for a year and a half and I had a Laparoscopy procedure in May. The day after we found out, I had to get my blood taken to test my HCG level. It came back above 1500 which was a great sign. Yesterday the nurse called with devastating news that my HCG level from the second test was half of the first test indicating that it was not a viable pregnancy. We are trying to have a positive attitude that now we know we can get pregnant. Even though we only knew for a week, many dreams were made. I am nervous that this will happen again.
My prayers go out to you all that your dreams of a beautiful, healthy baby will come true.
July 25th, 2009 at 4:56 am
Lindsey I am so sorry for your loss. Nothing anyone can say will make it any easier. Stay positive… at least you know now that you can get pregnant. I remind myself of that very thing every day when emotionally I start to struggle. It helps my husband and I…gives us hope that we will eventually be blessed with a healthy baby.
I wish you the very best and hang in there. It’s only been a couple of weeks since my mc. I didn’t think it would get any easier. Every where I go there is someone who is pregnant or has a baby. Most of our friends are pregnant. It’s hard when the very thing you want most is all around you. But, I try to stay positive and day by day it gets a little better. Take care of your self! This can only make you and your husband stronger as a whole. When you finally do have your baby it will be the most cherished little bundle of joy
August 10th, 2009 at 11:53 pm
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August 10th, 2009 at 11:56 pm
hi all i had a miscarriage in march 09. i was approx 5 and half months along and i lost the baby. right now i just want to die inside..i have been trying since then and every month is negative . i feel so hopeless does any one feel like me?
August 31st, 2009 at 11:05 pm
Hi all. Mel B., I am right there with you. I found out I was pregnant June 26th as well with my first child and miscarried July 4th. I was crushed beyond belief. Everything occured naturally and was told to wait 1 full cycle to try again. The husband and I had been trying for 9 months and were very excited to only have it taken away so quickly. My 1st cycle came within 28 days of the miscarriage, so at least my body seemed to heal. We tried, but to no avail. My 2nd cycle started 27 days later. I keep asking my husband if we should get tested, but he seems to think since we got pregnant once that we can do it again. I guess I just feel like a failure. I have no known health issues and we are both 31 going on 32. So I do know we have time, but sometimes wonder if we waited too long. Evereyone else is pregnant around me, especially those who weren’t trying and didn’t even want it. Breaks my heart. I am sending out my prayers to everyone is pain and wanting that little miracle. I hope it works for me one day as well.
September 8th, 2009 at 12:22 am
My husband and I had been ttc for 3 years. I turned 39 this year and my husband is 42 and that’s when we decided to do IUI with Clomid. The IUI was done 8/3/09 and on 8/14/09 we had a positive result and were on our way to having our 1st child. Well, unfortunately we miscarried yesterday. I’m so worried about getting pregnant again. I think we are going to ttc naturally again. It’s just that we want a child so bad, it’s devasting to go through all of the emotions of losing your pregnancy and there is nothing that you can do but to accept it. I cried all night long and then finding this website and reading some of your stories, is helping me to feel better. Now, we are both Christians and I know God never makes mistakes, he knows my heart and how bad we want a little one. Please pray for us.
September 8th, 2009 at 12:26 am
Jess Z – I know your pain. We are older than you and your husband, so of course we had those same feelings -should we have tried sooner. Everyone around us either have just had babies or are having babies within a few months. Of course for a few weeks we were so excited to be in the midst of those who were pregnant. Yes, it’s very devistating to experience a loss after ttc for so long. I say to you ….keep your spirits up -stay prayerful and positive. God will give you the desires of your hearts.
September 9th, 2009 at 4:27 am
Thanks for the kind words Mommy Wishes. I am so sorry for your loss as well. I will say some prayers that you will get that little miracle you so desire as well. I hope you are right about God giving a person the desires of the heart. I am christian as well, but this really rocked my faith. I was very angry with God and all those around me who were able to get pregnant and then go on to have healthy babies with no problems. I had to do ALOT of soul searching in order to accept what happened to me. Talking to others who have been through this really did help. Hearing others who have overcome this and had healthy babies has given me hope. I do still have bad days where I just want to cry all day, but I also have good days. The good days are a little more often now. I have a friend who got pregnant the same time I did…of course without trying. So it is hard to see her everyday starting to show now. Sometimes I think “that should be me”. But it isn’t me. She complains alot about all her pregnancy symptoms and having to buy new clothes, etc. Little does she know that I would take her worse pregnancy symptoms times 1000 to have my lost baby back. But now I REALLY know what a miracle this is. And I know that if I get pregnant again, how much I will enjoy the pregnancy, no matter how sick I get or how much weight I gain. So yes, maybe God does have his reasons. Sometimes it is just so hard to understand them. I really hope you don’t give up as well. best of luck to you.
September 11th, 2009 at 7:39 am
Thank you for your prayers Jess Z. Believe me when I say I understand how you feel. I was going down that road of being mad at God and then being envious of other pregnant women. It’s a natural instinct to go through. You my friend must make a decision to get yourself out of feeling that way and thank God for workng behind the scenes to help you achieve your goal of being a mom. I dont want to sound like I’m preaching or anything, but I truly believe God knows whats best for us even though sometimes we go through pain and we dont understand why certain things happen to us. All I know is I’m believing God and trying to stay encouraged because I know God will work things out so that my husband and I can become parents real soon. You try to stay positive and prayerful and I’ll keep you and your husband in my prayers….don’t forget to let me know when you get pregnant again
September 16th, 2009 at 11:23 pm
Mommy Wishes,
Thanks again for the kind words. I don’t consider you preaching at all. In situations like this, I think I need God the most. I did go to my OB Gyn and had about a 90 minute discussion with him. He is sending me for a pelvic ultrasound and if needed, another test to check the falopian tubes. I’m hoping it doesn’t get to that because I heard it is pretty painful, but whatever it takes I guess. I just can’t sit back and wait another 9 months to see if it happens or not. I’m thinking we failed again this month because during the “right” time we were both very stressed and didn’t do everything we should have. My pup (who is like my child) developed pneumonia. So we were both tired and stressed. So I’m already feeling depressed, but trying to get past that and look forward to trying again next month. I will keep the prayers going for both myself and you…as well as all the other people who are struggling right now. ou make sure you let me know when you get pregnant again as well….I’m hoping sooner than later
September 18th, 2009 at 1:10 am
Hi Jess Z and Mommy Wishes
I found this sight helpful back in July. We had just had our 10 wk ultrasound which ended in tears. We lost our baby. We had been trying forever and even went down the fertility route. I had gone through many painful tests to make sure things were ok. Nothing seemed to work. My husband and I had finally taken a break from it all. The next thing we new we were pregnant. It seemed so unreal! Everything we had went through finally seemed worth it. Until one day it was all taken away and there was nothing I could do to stop it. I was so angry especially at God. I kept asking what he wanted from me. I just couldn’t go through anymore. I feel for both of you. My story may be a little different from yours but just know you are not alone.
I am actually back on this sight to give you all hope. After our miscarriage we had to wait one normal cycle before we could try again. I went through some depression and wasn’t sure if I was ready but we decided to try anyway just in case it took us another year or so. I found out yesterday that I am pregnant again. I am trying not to be too excited because I am nervous it will happen again. I pray everyday that things will be ok this time.
A friend of ours gave us a prayer to try. She had a dream one night that all I needed to do was say this prayer and our wish would come true. I don’t know why but I believe in things like that. That dreams have a meaning. Anyway, I encourage you to try it. Even if it does not work the first time keep trying it.
Around the time that you are trying for a baby say this prayer for nine days in a row. Here is the website so you can read it: http://www.worldspirituality.org/father-solanus.html
You will be in my thoughts and prayers! Take care!
Shannon
September 20th, 2009 at 1:57 pm
Hey Jess,
I’m glad you are taking the necessary steps to get pregnant again. I did the fallopian tube test, it is uncomfortable, but I thought I need to do what I can to enusre I can get pregnant. The test came out fine, so no blockages. Again, I’ll stay in agreement with you and your husband that God will reward you with a beautiful little baby as your heart desires. It’s still too soon for me to start trying again, we need to wait about a few months. In the mean time, I’m taking all sorts of vitamins to help ensure my baby has a good head start at the time of conception. God Bless and I’ll check up on you (via this site) soon. Take care,
September 28th, 2009 at 10:24 pm
Hi Shannon. I’m sorry for your loss. I appreciate the encouragement. I feel like I need more and more lately. I just found out we failed to conceive again. This is are second month of trying since the miscarriage. It’s heart breaking and I’m getting very frustrated and just want to give up, but I know I won’t. I am happy to hear you are pregnant again. I do believe you will have a happy and healthy baby. Try and stay positive.
I myself, am getting an ultrasound next week and will be asking for the fallopian tube test as well. My husband may have finally agreed to get himself tested (fingers crossed). I also set up a weekend getaway for us around ovulation time next month. I will definately try your prayer. I have been praying to God and St. Gerard. St. Gerard is from the Catholic religion…I’m not catholic..but we all believe in God right? I’m willing to try whatever it will take. I never dreamed this would be so hard.
So I say good luck to you and keep us posted.
October 2nd, 2009 at 7:46 pm
Hi Jess Z,
I was so excited when I found out we were pregnant. I figured this must be it. Six days after we found out I miscarried. I am just devastated and i can’t believe this has happened again.
My doctor is going to have me wait one normal cycle and then send me for blood work. This rules out any immune disorders. I am also going to start taking progesterone the next time I have a BFP. I just pray something works. I can’t go through another one. Its such an emotional roller coaster. My hormones are so out of whack and I am just so angry! It feels like your being punished. My husband and I are trying so hard to stay positive but its just hard.
I wish you the best of luck. Keep trying! I don’t know why God is making us go through all this but I do know when it finally happens it will be worth it!
Keep me posted on how your doing as well. Good luck!
October 6th, 2009 at 2:30 am
Shannon,
I’m sorry this has happened again. It’s really not fair for you to have to go through this a second time. It’s not fair for anyone to have to go through this. It does feel like a punishment, doesn’t it. But it’s my understanding that God doesn’t punish us. I know it’s hard to feel otherwise. I thought I must have been Hilter in a past life or something.
One positive is to realize that you can get pregnant. Many woman cannot. Hopefully you will find what is causing this and it will be corrected. Try and keep your positive attitude. I know it’s not easy and my heart is just breaking for you. I don’t think I could handle it a second time around. But I guess you just have to deal with what life gives you.
I’m waiting on my U/S results and hoping they are ok. Im also excited for my mini-vacation starting Thursday so me and the DH can get some much needed time away together. Hopefully that helps!
I wish you the best of luck and you are right, WHEN (not if) it finally does happen, it will be woth it!
October 16th, 2009 at 12:29 am
I had a miscarriage about a month ago. I was about 6 wks. I had a huge tear in the placenta called a subchorionic hematoma. They said that it was just something that happens sometimes, but it was nothing that we did or could have prevented and would probably never happen again. My doctor said that once my levels were below 2, we could try and get pregnant again. About two weeks after my miscarriage my levels were at 4 so two weeks later they had me come in again and this time my levels were below 2. My husband and I were excited that we could start trying to get pregnant again, but then the nurse who told me my results said we should wait until I have atleast 3 normal cycles. We don’t know what to do. I really want to try and get pregnant again, but don’t want to get pregnant too soon and have another miscarriage. Does anyone have some input to how long they waited before trying to get pregnant?
October 16th, 2009 at 11:40 pm
Hi Sarah,
Every doctor is different. After my first miscarriage my OB told us we could start trying after one normal period. If it doesn’t seem like a normal period for you then I would wait one more cycle.
I wish you lots of luck and I hope this helped!
November 5th, 2009 at 3:46 am
Well, we just found out that my husband has low sperm motility. This could be why we have not been able to get pregnant after my July miscarriage. My tests all came back normal. So I’m praying that since we were able to do it once that we can do it again. And I’m also praying that if we are blessed enough to do it again that my body will keep the baby this time. Best wishes to all.
November 17th, 2009 at 12:17 pm
Hi Jess, sorry I havent been out here in a while. We just started trying again and I’m looking forward to getting a positive pregnancy test. I’ve been trying not to get so excited and obsessive about becoming pregnant again, but I cant help it. We did recently find a new Doctor and we LOVE her! She’s awesome and totally understanding…..because we want a child so bad, she asked if we wanted to go about it agressively…of course I said YES! Now it’s just a wait and see game.
Jess – since your husband has a low sprem motility, are you going to try IUI?
November 18th, 2009 at 3:34 am
Hi Mommy Wishes. Good to hear you are trying again. No I will not try IUI. We have both agreed that if we are not able to have a child naturally then we are just not meant to have one. I wish you the best of luck.